Disgusting Forms of "Love"

Why does manipulation happen in the area of relationships? Prevent your relationship from falling into this trap.
It is disgusting. I recently read several articles at a website called askmen.com The content was disgusting. Advice ranged from withholding information (like not telling her she was girl no. 42!!), to not pampering her or spoling her too much (she might expect it and become dependant on it!!), all the way to developing a point system and rewarding her with a gold her silver star every time she wants to have sex!

One of the major focuses of many of the articles was "not to lose control" over the relationship. It was telling men to "always appear in charge"and "never look weak".

This is outrageous!! I cannot believe the audacity someone would have to publish this. It mentioned several ways to manipulate women including why nice men should (or ultimately will) become jerks. It basically said, 'This is what women want.' Although, some of the information was about some legitimate ideas to maintaining a relationship, getting close (levels of sharing), etc.; the rest of the information was about the man protecting himself, manipulating, getting what he wants and REWARDING GOOD BEHAVIOR!! Of all the information on the site, the worst was the idea of the system of 'rewarding good behavior'. This implies that unconditional love, acceptance and care needs to be deserved, strived for, and maintained. One of the suggestions for the point system was once the woman got 100 points, the man would offer a ring. What lousy advice is this?!

The truth is men don't want someone who does what they ask because they invented a point system. Like women, they also want unconditional love and acceptance.

Please, I beg of you, let's stop manipulating (women too!). In all forms of relationships with the opposite sex, lets respect one another, love each other despite the others flaws (you have them too!) and give until we can give no more. This is REAL love. Not a point system or something else that is demeaning. If you even begin to think the point system is a 'good thing', think about how you would like it if it was done to you. Love isn't about points!! It is about us, 'you' loving 'me' and 'me' loving 'you'. In other words, stop being petty, trying to get your way, and manipulating your spouse, spouse-to-be or date in a way that they don't feel unconditionally accepted. After all, love isn't about conditions.

About the Author

Rachelle Delaporte writes articles that relate to her life and experiences. She believes that sometimes life holds experiences others can learn from and writing also gives her the opportunity to say what's on her mind. Rachelle also enjoys couponing & saving money. You can visit her website at: http://www.couponcorner.net

Written by: Rachelle Delaporte

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