Dating Tips For Ending A Relationship
Ending a relationship is never easy. When you feel you must end a relationship most people find it challenging as they have feelings towards their partner and do not wish to hurt them.
More often than not, breaking up is as hard on the person ending the relationship as it is on the person being broken up with. Realize that a person is breaking up has nothing to do with caring about another person. Caring about somebody and wanting a relationship are not the same.
The majority of people on this planet do not like to hurt others, especially somebody they have been close to. Guilt has been used more often than not to keep relationships together. Fight this urge and believe in yourself.! When you allow guilt as a way to stop a break up you not only cheat yourself out of having a good and true relationship, you’ll foster resentment towards the other person which could lead to greater pain and heart ache in the future. Why would you want to be with somebody who makes you feel bad by allowing you to feel guilty? Respect yourself!!.
A man should exit gracefully by planning the break up, to minimize the grief caused to his partner
Don’t just ignore her hoping she will notice and go away. You might have learned a little bit about push /pull as a term we use in seduction. That only tends to bring somebody in closer. Which is the exact opposite of what you want.
. The I think you're a great girl and I don't deserve you line will seem ok to her at first, but later on she will start to resent that. She could also go into how you DO deserve her and try to convince you.
Honesty really is the best policy. Treating the relationship, and the person, with respect and dignity helps soften the blow.
When you break up, Do it in person. Show some integrity and sincerity to tell her that the relationship isn't’t going anywhere. In our workshops we teach how verbal communication is only 7% of the total communication between people. If she also sees closed off body language it will be easier for closure for her eventually.
Telling somebody you are breaking up in person is never easy, but you owe it to her to break the news to her personally. This means not on the phone, definitely not over e-mail, but rather, face to face where she can get eye contact and read your body language. The universal line of “ we need to talk.” should be given in advance. This allows her to prepare for what is coming and helps soften the blow a little bit. Do not put too much time between the “We need to talk” and actual breakup as the waiting time in between is very uncomfortable if delayed long.
On doing some research on this I read a suggestion about breaking up in the exact same place you met if possible. This is to suggest that the relationship has completed a circle. A place where she has a lot of happy memories might help neutralize some of the new sad ones.
Ending a relationship gracefully means speaking our piece without blame or judgment and not taking responsibility for another’s feelings. It is important to make eye contact,and give body language that is open while you are communicating (which suggests you are VERY open to what you are saying) than give closed off body language after finishing your piece. To suggest you are not open to hearing anything else. Say your words sincerely, leave no room for doubt, and never back down- especially when she starts to cry and you feel horrible.
Than give that person some space usually a few months at least. Do not try to get cozy with the person as this can really mess with somebody’s head a lot as they will use this as hope that you are getting back together. This is the only way to keep pain to a minimum when ending a relationship.
Robert Torrey
About the Author: Robert Torrey is one of the trainers for Fidentia. Fidentia teaches men (and soon women) how to meet just about anybody and get that other person to pick you up.
Subscribe to their free newsletter for more info and check out the website
http://www.badboycoaching.com/dating_tips.htm
Source: www.isnare.com
Written by: Robert Torrey
How To Be Her Best
Lover Lovemaking
guide for men, revealing the
unique Mindset Method.
Romantic
Gifts for Her
Creative romantic
gifts and products to help
relationships. Gold roses,
chocolate roses, unique jewelry,
bath and body gifts and more.
Simply Whispers - Fashion jewelry for sensitive skin. Click here
Share Your
Thoughts
Do you have a great
idea for meeting new people? What
was your worst date? Got a better
suggestion for a date than dinner
and a movie? What's your best
romantic tip?
Post your comments
on our Blog
|
Currently in the News...
|
Other Articles of Interest
Questions To Ask On a First Date
Conversation starters can literally save your life on a first date. Why? Well, as you know, going on a first date can be very scary and intimidating. Our minds are overcome with fear and insecurities and we cave in to those emotions. We’re...
read more
Dating in a Down Economy
Dating is hard enough, but add to that a down economy and it's nearly impossible.
Thoughts from the Table: Dating in a Down Economy
When my friend, S, announced that she “quit” dating last week, I found it amusing that I had worded my own...
read more
Filipina dating::: A Wedding in the Philippines
Centuries old Wedding traditions and wonderful Philippine customs make Filipina Weddings (Kasalan) some of the most beautiful wondrous celebrations on earth. The Filipino culture's high regard for the sanctity of Marriage has given the Philippine...
read more
Online Dating – A Great Way to Meet your Soul Mate
Online Dating or Internet Dating is very well known these days and it is becoming more and more popular because of its convenience and advantages. The first and foremost advantage is that you can contact matches without your real identity revealed...
read more
PLAYING THE INTERNET DATING GAME - FAQs
Just some of the questions that come my way every day from surfers thinking about using dating sites.....
- DO DATING SITES WORK?
The short answer is "yes". The long answer is that you need to be smart in your approach to using dating sites....
read more
 
|