Dating Success: Dress to Attract the Man of Your Dreams
In order to attract the man of your dreams, it helps to dress in a way
that honors your beautiful body. When I use the word "honor," I don't
mean you should dress like a nun or hide yourself in an ankle-length
skirt and a turtleneck.
But you should wear only clothes that make the best of your unique
shape. Too many fleshy women (and there are lots of men who prefer robust
females over skimpier lasses) are currently wandering the planet in
low-rise jeans and tank tops, which results in a phenomenon known as
"muffin top." In other words, they're walking around with a wedge of flab
over their waistbands. Not a good look.
Before you hop on whatever trend they're pushing in InStyle magazine,
ask yourself if the look works for you and your beautiful body. I once
read an interview with the actress Sela Ward, in which she said she
chooses clothes to show off her amazing flat stomach but avoids items that
expose her flabby thighs. You see, nobody's perfect!
The key is to emphasize what you do have and to detract attention from what you
don't. Buy only the clothes that you know you'll put on over and over
again because they make you feel fantastic. Think twice about any garment
heralded by women's magazines as "must-have" items. The only
"must-haves" in life are oxygen and self-esteem.
Which brings me to my next subject: When you go out to a club, a bar or
a party, you will notice that 3/4 of the other women are half naked.
Yes, some of them look quite good half naked (while the other half look
quite scary), but dressing provocatively often attracts the very guys a
woman would do better to avoid.
Put it this way: If you don't leave anything to the imagination, you
usually attract a guy with no imagination.
At the end of the day, you don't want to attract a guy because he
thinks you're hot. You want to attract a guy who likes you for you. Dress
sexily but subtly. You don't want your clothes to scream, "I gotta find
me a man tonight!"
Dress comfortably. If you feel comfortable, you'll look comfortable,
and that's sexy. Here's an example: Once upon a time I went to the beach
with some friends who actually have melanin in their skin. They took to
their blankets in their cute bikinis, while I (so pale I make Snow
White look like Grace Jones) sat beside them wearing Levis, a long-sleeved
shirt, and sunglasses.
Out of nowhere, a gorgeous, well-toned man appeared (the type of guy
you see in suntan lotion commercials) and asked me, the freak on the
beach, what I was reading.
"Wuthering Heights," I said.
"Really?" he asked. "I just finished Jane Eyre."
And so began a little romance.
Still bewildered, I told my male friend B. this story years later. I
didn't understand why this Adonis chose Glow-in-the-Dark Terry over the
dark lovelies in bikinis.
"I understand completely," B. responded. "The beach was crawling with
girls in bikinis, and you presented something else. A little mystery."
"In a pair of Levis?"
"Yeah," he said. "The guy probably thought, this girl is different. I
want to talk to her."
Does this mean you should throw away your bikini? Heck, no, especially
if you look good in it. But the point is, be true to yourself. Dress to
make the very best of your unique and beautiful body.
You'll attract men who are looking for someone special for a change.
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Visit her website at http://www.marrysmart.com . Check out her blog at http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com .
Written by: Terry Hernon MacDonald
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